Breaking out of the mold of what society says you should be, and how you should look can be exhausting. In my 26 years on this earth I have experienced my fair share of trial and error in this arena. Trying not to care what others think can be easier said than done for sure. Which is why I am here sharing with you all the ways I am letting go, and how i’m moving forward.
Get out of your comfort zone. Don’t be afraid to try new things. Don’t shy away from new people, new energy, new surroundings. Embracing change can be one of the most splendid things a human can do. Who knows what happiness change can bring. “If it doesn’t challenge you, it wont change you.”
Acknowledging the past, while being present. It is supposed to be a fact that Scorpios hold grudges for eternity. Well I am okay with being the black sheep. Holding a grudge doesn’t make you stronger, better, or smarter. It leaves a bitter taste in your mouth. It is bad energy lingering in the shadows, waiting to clothesline you when it has seeks the chance. Forgiving yourself for your past, or present mistakes doesn’t make you weak. It sets you free.
Learn to stray from negativity. Recognizing what may – or who may – threaten your joy is the first step towards a positive life. You are responsible for your own happiness, and surrounding yourself with people that make you happy. “Being positive in a negative situation is not naive. It’s leadership.”
Do not doubt yourself. We as humans need to do what is best for us. That looks different for everyone. We learn what we can tolerate, and what we should not. Do what makes your soul happy. That is your first priority. If you are constantly focused on doing things that you love, with people you love, than doubting yourself will only set you back. Doubt will kill more joy than failure ever will.
Knowing that self care is not selfish. Taking the time to put yourself first is not selfish, it’s vital to our overall well being. Do what feels right for you in the moment. If taking a bath, and reading a good book will warm your heart more than running errands, than take that bath. Read that book. “Self care is not selfish. You cannot serve on an empty vessel.”
Don’t compare. Comparing ourselves to others can be one of the most damaging things we can do. If God intended for us to all have the same goals, same looks, same clothes, than he would have given us all the same opportunities, and we would all be living the same boring life. What is the fun in that? Life is about creating our own goals. Life is about self discovery. If you don’t have what another does, that is OKAY. They may not have something that you have, that they may want. Social media is one giant hole that we can easily fall into, and shortly find ourselves comparing ones outfit to our own. Remember it’s very easy for people to hide behind social media. Don’t compare yourself, it will only make you bitter, not better.
When you get knocked down, pick yourself back up. Learn from your mistakes, and create your own success stories. Do what you love, and own it. Chase those dreams, and become someone you are proud to be.