Coming up on my one year anniversary of being married, and being the wife to the most kickass husband, has us inspired to create a series of blog posts where we answer one another’s questions. My husband, who also has his very own blog, Away With Words , will be also be answering questions that I have given him. He will not see my answers or me with his, until we read one another’s blog posts. This could either cause divorce, or an eternity of head in the clouds love.
1. Is there anything I could do to make you feel more loved?
Keep writing to me. You are a writer, and sometimes it may be easier for you to express your thoughts, and concerns through your writing. Just like the beginning of our relationship, where we exchanged emails back and forth for almost a year, expressing ourselves, and our deep affection for one another. Also couples in love emailing, makes me feel like a modern day Meg Ryan. Sleepless in Portland. You show me constantly how much you care and love me. Writing would be going above and beyond.
2. How could I make you feel more respected?
I am treated like a queen by my husband. He offers me his coat when cold. Opens doors for me. Puts me above friends, and sometimes even family. He tucks me in at night when he is not yet ready for bed. He is open, and honest with me. He does not sugar coat. If there is anything that could make me feel more respected or appreciated, it would just be less technology, and more being in the moment with one another.
3. Is there anything I could do to make you feel more secure?
You tell me I’m beautiful with makeup, without makeup, and even when I’m sick. So looks wise, feeling secure is not an issue. Saving our money, and building a future is something I’m very invested in. Especially with you. Becoming financially stable enough, and living in a place that doesn’t eat our paychecks is a start. Thanks “Restaurant City of the Year”. But you know I always say, I could live in a cardboard box, and still be madly in love with you.
4. Is there anything I could do to make you feel more understood?
I put most of my thoughts, concerns, and ideas into my writing on my blog. Which you read every post. Supporting me in every endeavor, and helping me to write, and encouraging me to put my thoughts out there for the world to read. You are very stubborn, and on the rare occasions we disagree, you can be very one sided, and you become a brick wall. But with most issues that arise in my life, concerning you or not, you have always been a pretty intelligent, informational soundboard. Which I appreciate. The amount of genuinely good advice you give me, is so incredibly helpful.
5. What can I do to make you feel more confident in our future direction?
You are already a wonderful communicator. In which you’ve taught me how to better speak what’s on my mind too. So if we keep our lines of communication open, and clear, the marriage can continue to thrive. But also like I mentioned earlier, moving somewhere better, where we’re more financially comfortable would be a huge step in the right direction. I know you feel the same.
6. What attribute would you like me to develop?
More confidence in your writing, and that it will take you places if kept up in the direction you’ve been going. To never lose faith or hope. To keep reaching even when goals seem unreachable. I know it’s easier for you to have off days, where it’s harder for you to look on the bright side. Come to me, or others, in moments of doubt. With everyone around you, friends, family, and myself, you have such an amazing support system.
7. What attribute would you like me to help you develop?
The ability to better stand up for the things I believe in, and to express myself, and my opinions without fear of repercussions. I look up to you, and how you express yourself, and lay it all out there for people to see/read without fear of being judged or smacked on the hand.
8. What achievement in my life would bring you the most happiness?
Choosing one achievement will give you nothing to keep working towards. So here’s a few. Writing a novel. Being married for 50 years with you being 11 years older than me. Choosing to become a father.
9. What mutual goal would you like to see us accomplish?
Living somewhere, whether it be in a house, or apartment, where we’re happy, financially comfortable, and happy. Somewhere where we can continue to grow, learn, and be the beat versions of ourselves.
10. What is one thing I have done for you recently?
What haven’t you done for me recently? Without inflating your ego too much, here’s a few things. Washing my back every day in the shower. Giving me advice through daily frustrations. Exploring with me, and being willing to be my instagram husband. Cooking for me. Doing the dishes almost every day. Loving my dog like he is the only dog in the world. I could go on.
Sharing the same life, air, and goals with you is all I’ve ever wanted. You have made me a person I have grown to be enthralled by. Thank you for continuing to push me to be the best me, and us to be the best us.